1. We are afraid of failure, rejection, abandonment, or death. 2. We have a need or combination of needs that are not being met (that is, not being listened to or not being respected). 3. We have a set of desires that have been unfulfilled. The difference between a need and a desire is that our desires are an expression of how our needs will be met. For example, we all have a need to be loved. Some people desire that need to be shown through acts of kindness while others desire to hear words of affirmation.
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